You been single long enough and you feel ready now, great what has been your strategy thus far? To meet people, to mingle? Yes you can meet potential partners everywhere. Naturally first you need to know who is coming into the relationship, Yes YOU. Answer these honestly:
1) Do you treat/spoil yourself? (Y/N)
2) Do you enjoy your own company? (Y/N)
3) Do you respect your body? (Y/N)
If you scored a NO in any of the above, think about it and reflect on what this really means to you. Answer ‘why not?” to this, This impacts how you see yourself and how others would see you!. You need to love and respect yourself first, if not how else can you expect others to fill this void in you? You need to bring joy into your own life and be responsible for it, so if you are still blaming an old boyfriend/girlfriend/parents for past events, get over it. Only when you move on then others will be attracted to you,
So you scored Y on all the above and are still single? What are the expectations around having a relationship, do you have many boundaries around this and do you make quick assumptions of your new date on the first encounter? Relax on the date, its not a race, enjoy whatever you are both doing and let go, you don’t need to control every situation, let the other person initiate, scary thought I know but you need to work at trust and companionship. Remember you are after a long term relationship with substance; treat the other person with respect how you would like to be treated.
2) Do you enjoy your own company? (Y/N)
3) Do you respect your body? (Y/N)
If you scored a NO in any of the above, think about it and reflect on what this really means to you. Answer ‘why not?” to this, This impacts how you see yourself and how others would see you!. You need to love and respect yourself first, if not how else can you expect others to fill this void in you? You need to bring joy into your own life and be responsible for it, so if you are still blaming an old boyfriend/girlfriend/parents for past events, get over it. Only when you move on then others will be attracted to you,
So you scored Y on all the above and are still single? What are the expectations around having a relationship, do you have many boundaries around this and do you make quick assumptions of your new date on the first encounter? Relax on the date, its not a race, enjoy whatever you are both doing and let go, you don’t need to control every situation, let the other person initiate, scary thought I know but you need to work at trust and companionship. Remember you are after a long term relationship with substance; treat the other person with respect how you would like to be treated.
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