Brand New Day

Each day we have another chance, to experience it, to live it the way we want. Naturally this includes working, so in that case why not work at something you like. Instead of wishing the time away whilst you are at work, enjoy it and feel productive in that moment. Our thoughts are very powerful, just imagine if you don't like your work and you keep looking at your time, it drags by and then, by the time you leave the work place, you are happy. Guess what happens to time? it speeds up thats what it does.

So if you in the present focusing on your tasks for the day, feel good about what you are contributing, connect with the experience as you are mindful and in the present, time is irrelevant and you will find yourself thinking about other things. The clock is just there as a benchmark, you are one with time and not fighting it.

Each day is a brand new day, how you go about your day impacts you in so many levels. So choose to be grateful and appreciative of what comes into your day. Connect with others and be genuine.

After all tomorrow is just around the corner..

It is PERFECT

I remember my first ever Personal Development seminar that I attended. The speaker said "you are in the perfect place" how did she know that? I was too much into my head space at that time and wondered how someone would know that.

Since then I have come to realise that everything is just perfect the way it is, after all if you think you are going towards perfection where are you today? Just trying? Well in my concept you are in the perfect place right now as you learn ways to keep moving forward and becoming more empowered in your choices. If you do not like where you are today, then you change it, you are in that perfect place to realise that you need to do something thus the moment is perfect just the way it is.

Recently we attended a funeral, and where do you find that 'perfect-ness' in that moment. Well I thought about it and it was perfect as the people who loved and knew that person were there, we appreciated his life and had hope and inspiration for our lives as we could do things in our time. And that was perfect. He lead his life and all he did was perfect. It didn't take away from the sadness and the grief for his family and friends. Just seeing it differently gave me hope and the feeling that everyday matters, and every day you need to enjoy it to the fullest.

and that is just perfect.

So when you want to get away from a situation, see it as an opportunity, and what you will learn from this, you are in the perfect place to learn, develop and grow.

Patiperro= Constant Traveller

Last night at our weekly Spanish conversational class I met some lovely people who have been travelling the world with their sport. She was fluent in Spanish this was her third language. She is native Canadian, so French and English come first.

Yes lots of talent in these groups as most come to practice their little vocabulary or maintaining what they know. It is fun as there are always a mixture of people, cultures and ages.

So I said to Erica, you are a patiperro, and in Chile this word is used to say, you constantly travel, it has nothing to do with dog= perro. pati= pata=feet. So the English equivalent could be 'itchy feet'.

Anyway, this blog is not a Chilean Spanish lesson, however if you get value out of that great.

Being in constant change is a sign of the times, we get up and up root ourselves so many times with jobs, homes, partners and even the looks we have! So what I wanted to convey was that Erica and her partner were ready to have a fixed address, they were tired of living out of a suitcase.

I can recall when that happened to me, I was about 26 years old and I just wanted to get some furniture and some permanency. Some people need to experience that freedom to explore the world and themselves, ultimately wanting to get back into some kind of routine.

So if you are a patiperro at heart, there are many of us out there, always looking at the next travel brochure..

Your Why

Goal Setting is one of those things that you need to make time for. If you casually say something like.. one day I will have that... or maybe if I save enough I can take that trip overseas..

Not very empowering langugage in fact with that type of thinking you will most likely still have the same goal year in year out.

Why do you want your goal? Exploring your why and really getting to the heart of the matter is crucial to achieving it, as this becomes your motivation, your fuel, your passion.

I used to just write it down and then forget my goals. Now I read them everyday, and when I get there I write another goal etc, and I connect with them as much as possible. I know they are coming, as long as I continue to do the work and keep motivated to get there, it will happen.

Do you believe in your goals? are they realistic for you and measurable? Again sit down with a coach or someone who excels in their own life and ask them for tips on achieving their outcomes.

One tip from me: To commit to your goals, and not give up no matter what! it will pay off in the long term, so don't give up if you do, you will never know what was waiting for you.

So get to understand your 'why' whatever this will bring you, for some it will mean more freedom of choice and perhaps less working as an employee. For others is what this freedom will mean, to finally travel to Asia... For others it will be more security in their children's future and more stability.

So why do you want that???

Freedom Thinking

Just the other day I was absorbed in a conversation about being true to yourself. It sounds easy to say and write, but putting this into practise is another thing. We have so many influences that pull us in so many directions that often times we don't know if this for them or for us. Wanting to do the right thing can be conflicting at times.

If you want to pursue a career in something you are passionate about, but you find yourself caught in a rut because the job you have currently is not ideal but it pays the bills. Would you consider yourself experiencing freedom in your work?

As they say this is also a reflection of what else is happening in your life, to some extent. Something to think about.

If freedom is a high value on your list, how do you achieve it? By just thinking about it when you are unhappy, and dreading Monday mornings?

You need to have Freedom Thinking and have it in your life in the positive, only then it will come to you in abundance. Being congruent with your values is so important that everything else just follows..

So ask yourself: How free are you today?

Our Biggest Fear

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small doesn’t serve the world
There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same
As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.


Marianne Williamson
A Return to Love

Authenticity Vs Hidden Agendas

I guess most of us walk around with an agenda in mind. We are looking out for our needs and meeting our expectations. This is true for all aspects of our lives, career, finances, relationships, spiritual and emotional. We seek what we deem is important to us at the time, and for many this is simply to have security, love, choices, freedom, family/friends, this all equates to stability and certainty in our lives. This in turn gives us our purpose our mission which is fuelled by our motivation our passion to get there..

Then we have people with hidden agendas that we do not know about and impact the way we do things so they have manipulated the conversation. We come out feeling confused and frustrated to say the least. As we do not know what is going on and feel we are being used to their benefit.

Being authentic is the key, being honest to yourself and to others, being real in your interactions with people. If you are interested in others you will be interesting yourself.

Like the law of attraction, you will attract people like yourself, so be the real you.

Detachment

I was talking to one of my clients yesterday and during our session we discussed the notion of detachment. You see when you work towards something so hard, you slave away your weekends to grow your business and you do everything humanly possible to nurture your teams and be there for people. The results are not showing at the end of the month and you begin to question your reasoning for working so much, you feel frustrated and really challenged.

You are so emotionally attached to the outcome that you just need to let go and detach. Doesn't mean you don't care in fact you care so much that you are willing to do whatever it takes. You simply need to surrender and let go of the outcome. As you have already put in the residual work and it will pay off in the long term, just move on to to the next thing.

It is not an easy thing to do, believe me I am doing this in an area of my life too, you just let the universe do its' thing and trust that you will have what you want.

Just remember once you have detached from the outcome you have more energy to focus on that other project and you can use your efforts to build other wonderful creative ideas!

Have fun creating and enjoy the process of letting go...

Dramas

We seek drama sometimes, it makes us feel significant. I heard today about some negative work drama and then I came to the realisation that some people live in their own drama cycle. They get a kick out of being there and being at the effect. They inflitrate others with their negativity specially if people are vulnerable and easily influenced.

It it easier to focus on the external and have a bitch about it than look into your own life!

That is for sure. I guess we all do that at some point in our lives, when we are 3 or 30! it is just relative to each person and what they are projecting at the time. As this is mirrored back to them in other ways and life becomes eventful.

Even if we stepping on other people's feelings. I guess the lesson and the learning here is to be responsible for your actions and your energy, be at cause. If you are at work, be professional and if you need to vent issues seek a coach! someone neutral to the situation. If you keep festing this negativity it just becomes like a disease state, and then you become diseased.

So AIR it out, let someone know or simply write it down and then LET IT GO...

Yes letting go is the last step, so you do not hold grudges or harbour resentment, that is just reliving that moment and in all honesty, holds no purpose.

So be at Cause, be the creator.

Sweet Success

When do you know you have made it? when you have a certain amount in your bank account? When you have left your office job and are retired? Or when you have a harmonious relationship and thriving business?

I guess for most of us it is a combination of things and perhaps one or two things need to be fulfilled for us to really feel this sweet success.

It just depends on what you are looking for, and what is your criteria for success, one person maybe happy with earning 40K a year whilst another aims for 300K a year, it is just relative and what they are focusing on.

Values also play a major part here, if you are wanting monetary success and you don't value money then you have a conflict and most likely not reach this success. If you want to make it and do the actions to get you there and yet still don't make it, perhaps unconsciously you prevent yourself to going that way and you are moving away from success.

Success is a mindset, body, spirit and soul in my opinion. How you get there could be as vast as the people that occupy this world.

Plastic People

I had a conversation with a fellow coach today, and it was enlightening as we talked about our circle of influence and how we have come to the place of creating our days.

You see I believe in personal responsibility, everything we see is just a reflection of our expectations, and if I believe I have sincere, honest people around me well that is it!

I used to have plastic people around me, they are like sheep, following each other around, waiting for acknowledgement from some external source to make them feel good about themselves!

No longer part of my reality, all those I associate with are empowered individuals and we share many common themes, I don't associate myself with my old friends our values are different and I respect that. I can be honest and place myself in the situations which I want to be in, naturally and without judgement.

I guess that is it Judgement, there is only understanding and empathy, no judgement, that is another social faux pas that I can see in todays' social gatherings.

so if you thrive on gossip and knowing about other peoples' lives, take a good look in the mirror..

Act on your Ideas

In a recent mini holiday, I found myself completely in the moment, when all I had to do was to paddle and not get wet. You see we were canoeing and it was wonderful to feel the vastness of the lake the wind and our bodies balancing on the canoe. I was totally mesmerised and in that moment, looking at the next destination point focusing my energy on keeping up with my partner.

The ideas came, about my work, business opportunities, new challenges, and what I really wanted. As long as I had freedom to dream about all the potential out there I know I could make my mark and leave an incredible trail for others to follow. This got me excited and in tune with what action I had to take.

It is wonderful when you create more head space, you get clarity and the ideas just come..

Thomas, my husband had the same relevation, he was on a flow of constant creativity and he was amazing to talk to, he is my hero.

So if you have some incredible ideas, ACT on these, otherwise someone else will act on them, it might as well be YOU.

Enjoy your change and your creativity..