It is so easy to just give up on your dreams and goals, after all life is full of disruptions and you can easily use one of those to get yourself off the hook. I know many people who do this. In all honesty, I still catch myself sometimes as I can find excuses to prevent myself from being more successful. It is how nature works sometimes, we want something so much and then we focus on something completely different. Perhaps it is like that instant gratification, if we don't achieve it NOW we loose interest and then focus on something else.
My daughter does that already, she picks up a toy, sees another and then focuses on that one instead. Until the next toy is in her sights she is just happy going from one thing to another. Us adults are not dissimilar are we?
The main difference I find is that you need to keep that big picture in mind. Why are you doing this? to what purpose and what will that give you? Once you can discover your motives and your WHY then the actions just become automated steps, if we stall or just ignore the action then we are sabotaging our own success and what we truly deserve. Do you want it BAD ENOUGH? obviously NOT if you just come up with excuse after excuse, as this energy consumes you and your goal just keeps slipping away.
Would you like to just be on course and keep going no matter what? and get to your destination? So NEVER GIVE UP!
Never Give Up!
Gratitude Time
Lately many of my friends are becoming parents for the first time, this theme has been in my life for the last few years and before joining this exclusive club I was always wondering when I was going to be one of them. I didn't want to be just the godmother, I wanted to be the god.
I guess when you want something so much your body aches when you don't get it, and I know how much it hurts, from the inside out, you carry your own pain and your wanting, wondering IF you will succeed. Yes you doubt yourself and everything around you. If I think about it longer enough it does consume you. I was there.
So it is during this time to be grateful of what is currently in your life, what do you give thanks for?
Create a list of those things and people in your life today and feel the feelings of how they make you feel. Get in touch with your emotions and express them. Only today I cried and cried, combined emotions of seeing my little girl laugh with me, seeing the MJ Memorial on TV, and feeling for his family and what he gave the world. MJ gave so much to so many and we are all touched in some way or another. I was not immune, I too have my MJ story, the music lives on, as does his nature and his gift. His legacy.
Makes me think about how I want to be remembered, what will be my legacy.
Listen to your Body
Just speaking to a client the other day about her health challenges, she felt so worn out and depleted of energy. I guess this is normal if you have not been listening to your body. The body knows what is going on and if we keep pushing them and ignore the aches, signs, low energy levels, headaches then we ultimately pay the price. Lets not forget how stress impacts the body, even a healthy body with stress will be likely to suffer from infertility. Your body needs to preserve energy and is busy fighting the ailments and is vulnerable. Ignoring the signs/drinking more coffee or other stimulants will not help in the long term.
So STOP and ask yourself
Why are you doing this to your body temple?
Are you on a crash course to get more pain?
DO you really want a family?
What are you prepared to do to have it?
Start with nurturing your body, fueling it with the right healthy foods, if it means going organic and giving up coffee and the occasional wine, then it is worth it!
Your body's residual health will improve and you will be in a much better place to feel empowered and in control of your being even if the external environment is at a chaos you will be centered and driving your course.
So listen to your body.
Born to Laugh
Why do young babies just giggle and giggle? Well it is amazing to see such a gorgeous little soul giggling at anything and displaying her gummy smile for the world to see. Having a baby is the most rewarding aspect of my life. I mean that you see this little person grow and show signs of independence every day. They are pure and so so innocent that you see things for the first time when you are with them, through them you see the newness to it all.
How blissful. And laughing together brings me to tears. Last night on my drive home from yoga I had a moment of emotional burst, I cried with such happiness as I feel so complete with my family. I helped create this and how blessed I am to be in their lives. Sharing the collective moments and seeing the world change as a consequence.
Children bring you back to the NOW, there is nothing else for them, and it is something we loose as we grow-up. Yet so many of us are trying to bring it back to simplify living, bringing it back to the basics. To breathe and enjoy to embrace and trust. To be and relax.
Today is Friday, the day doesn't matter when you are a baby, everyday you see the new and play with whatever is in your surroundings. You smile at those that smile back and giggle when you get tickled.
How sweet is this...
Positive Vibes
I have had contact with a few ladies that formed part of a wonderful support group when I was going through IVF, it is amazing how far we have all come. To be part of this group we needed to be child-less and most of us had already gone through a miscarriage. Yes highly emotional gatherings, lots of tissues were used and we bonded like I have never bonded with women before. I mean you are just so raw after each disapointment that having someone going through the same thing gave you empathy and understanding. Well that was a few years ago and most of us, in fact from the 6 in the group 5 of us have a child and now most are going for their second...
One lady has number 2 already and today I heard news that another one is expecting, I am so happy for them and wish her a stress-free pregnancy. Naturally she has yet to tell anybody as she waits for her viability ultrasound at week 7. I have envisioned that all those wanting to grow their families will be pregnant this year. That is my vision.
For us we shall go again early 2010, as my little princess just turned 6 months and I really don't want to go down that path just yet. As I know it will consume me in so many ways. You need to keep the balance and right now I'm doing just that, being grateful for the gift that she is, and enjoying each day with her.
So keep those positive vibes ladies, thinking of you all, relax and see your body transforming.
I see pregnant bellies everywhere!!
Tribute
Like most people who enjoyed Michael Jacksons' music and entertainment, this is a tribute to a wonderful entertainer. I remember going to his concert in 1987 with my sister in Melbourne, a highlight of my youth that is for sure. He danced like no one was watching and the place lit up with energy. I never knew you could have so much fun singing and dancing alongside strangers, it was one big party. Simply amazing. An inspiration to so many singers and dancers to come, he impacted generations and will continue to inspire people.
Sure he had a different model of the world, after all he was performing since he was 4 years old, that in itself is different growing up in the limelight. That was normal for him. Other 4 year olds, played with toys, and went to school not having any expectations to perform.
I am sad today, a wonderful man has left us, may he travel well and thanks for wonderful memories and your legacy will grow. He contributed to the world and made it a better place.
Whatever It Takes
Have you ever wanted just to give up? As life dishes out challenges that are just too hard sometimes, like going through roller-coaster after roller-coaster. You do not know if you are coming or going?? Ever feel like that??
I did, in fact I was there for a few years in the endless vicious circle that IVF creates. I was replaying the minute details of every scan, test and ultimately the disappointments. I was a wreak. My husband was my rock and he knew when to avoid me and when to hug me, it was that kind of journey. You really didn't know what was around the corner on some days, you just existed. And then you approached the next cycle with some glimmer of hope...
That is when you empowered yourself, I did and took on the face of whatever it takes we will get there. This became my mantra throughout my personal marathon. I was pacing myself and ticked of the action items. "Whatever it takes" I kept saying and no was not an option.
Getting your mind around something you want so much is exhausting, and it does take a toll on your relationships that is for sure. You question everything and wonder if you are doing the right thing, you over analyse and your criticise everybody. Wondering if there is light at the end of the tunnel. Is your marathon going to end or are you that character in "ground-hog day" replaying each day exactly the same way!
Whatever it takes, remember stay positive, have a scream from time to time, connect with others and lean on your support network!
