Ages ago my yoga teacher kept saying this if you do it 99% right it is still 100% wrong. It took me a while to really get it. So the way I see this is: you try and go for it you are almost there yet you still fail. This is because you are content with just 99% and you shouldn't be. You need to aim high to get your gold star. This is how you get to your goal, you never give up and you keep at it UNTIL....
Your intention is important you just keep persisting and the opportunity will come, that door will open you will succeed. You may think 99% is enough well that means you have just stopped short of your goal. Is that good enough?
You may think 'almost there' is as good as getting there, who are you trying to convince?
If you do this in this area in your life (like trying to loose weight for example) where else does this pattern show up?
Surely this is a reflection of where your life is right now, see it for what it is.
No filters no blinkers on just the honest truth. And once you can be frank with yourself then you will go forward and not settle for second best.
You deserve the very best so why sell yourself short?
99% Right is 100% Wrong
Heart To Heart
How often do we really have a conversation? You know the ones that are heart to heart? I mean you can have a chat and just talk about the superficial things, we all do that, it is being diplomatic and courteous. Yet how often do we really TALK about our emotions and what is really bothering us? About our future and our inspiring goals? I am looking at my most immediate friends and surprisingly I only show that side of my life to a rare few. No judgement just an observation as I usually say!
So if this is missing in your life and you are just cruising by and not really connecting with those that matter, then what is stopping you?
What will they think of me?
Why should I dump my stuff onto them?
I have to appear like I am coping?
I need to be strong and just get on with it?
Any of these questions sound familiar? I know for me, it is about appearing to be coping and most days I do just fine. It is sometimes that I become too insular and block out others and just run my own internal programme.I have to watch when I do that as I am not letting others in and I need to ask for assistance, support and advice.
Good friends, family and even our life partner can be that person, they reflect us in so many ways so we need to show vunerability and humility. Through showing our emotions we allow others to do the same and then the connection really does come from the heart.
Your Tiger
I was researching an article the other day and the author was using an analogy about 'fighting your Tiger' As they are everywhere, like the obstacles we face everyday, instead he refered to them as beating the tiger.
It is so appropriate to our everyday living and especially when we have a mountain to climb, a health challenge that is so HUGE that we do not know if we really have the stamina or the willpower to keep going. Yet when we are faced with the Tiger, we get bigger and we fight it with all the tools we have, we get resourceful and strong. We become our own tiger and find that inner strength to keep going, we have made a personal commitment and we shall climb our mountain.
NO is not an option, we are in the moment and see that Tiger and what it really represents we need to draw from our resourceful state and keep going no matter what. I was there, not so long ago yet today It seems like that mountain is just behind me and on the horizon I can see another soon approaching.
And so I brace myself and gain the knowledge and tools around me because I will be ready and waiting for my Tiger to greet me.
So sharpen your claws kitty!
Never Give Up!
It is so easy to just give up on your dreams and goals, after all life is full of disruptions and you can easily use one of those to get yourself off the hook. I know many people who do this. In all honesty, I still catch myself sometimes as I can find excuses to prevent myself from being more successful. It is how nature works sometimes, we want something so much and then we focus on something completely different. Perhaps it is like that instant gratification, if we don't achieve it NOW we loose interest and then focus on something else.
My daughter does that already, she picks up a toy, sees another and then focuses on that one instead. Until the next toy is in her sights she is just happy going from one thing to another. Us adults are not dissimilar are we?
The main difference I find is that you need to keep that big picture in mind. Why are you doing this? to what purpose and what will that give you? Once you can discover your motives and your WHY then the actions just become automated steps, if we stall or just ignore the action then we are sabotaging our own success and what we truly deserve. Do you want it BAD ENOUGH? obviously NOT if you just come up with excuse after excuse, as this energy consumes you and your goal just keeps slipping away.
Would you like to just be on course and keep going no matter what? and get to your destination? So NEVER GIVE UP!
Gratitude Time
Lately many of my friends are becoming parents for the first time, this theme has been in my life for the last few years and before joining this exclusive club I was always wondering when I was going to be one of them. I didn't want to be just the godmother, I wanted to be the god.
I guess when you want something so much your body aches when you don't get it, and I know how much it hurts, from the inside out, you carry your own pain and your wanting, wondering IF you will succeed. Yes you doubt yourself and everything around you. If I think about it longer enough it does consume you. I was there.
So it is during this time to be grateful of what is currently in your life, what do you give thanks for?
Create a list of those things and people in your life today and feel the feelings of how they make you feel. Get in touch with your emotions and express them. Only today I cried and cried, combined emotions of seeing my little girl laugh with me, seeing the MJ Memorial on TV, and feeling for his family and what he gave the world. MJ gave so much to so many and we are all touched in some way or another. I was not immune, I too have my MJ story, the music lives on, as does his nature and his gift. His legacy.
Makes me think about how I want to be remembered, what will be my legacy.
Listen to your Body
Just speaking to a client the other day about her health challenges, she felt so worn out and depleted of energy. I guess this is normal if you have not been listening to your body. The body knows what is going on and if we keep pushing them and ignore the aches, signs, low energy levels, headaches then we ultimately pay the price. Lets not forget how stress impacts the body, even a healthy body with stress will be likely to suffer from infertility. Your body needs to preserve energy and is busy fighting the ailments and is vulnerable. Ignoring the signs/drinking more coffee or other stimulants will not help in the long term.
So STOP and ask yourself
Why are you doing this to your body temple?
Are you on a crash course to get more pain?
DO you really want a family?
What are you prepared to do to have it?
Start with nurturing your body, fueling it with the right healthy foods, if it means going organic and giving up coffee and the occasional wine, then it is worth it!
Your body's residual health will improve and you will be in a much better place to feel empowered and in control of your being even if the external environment is at a chaos you will be centered and driving your course.
So listen to your body.
Born to Laugh
Why do young babies just giggle and giggle? Well it is amazing to see such a gorgeous little soul giggling at anything and displaying her gummy smile for the world to see. Having a baby is the most rewarding aspect of my life. I mean that you see this little person grow and show signs of independence every day. They are pure and so so innocent that you see things for the first time when you are with them, through them you see the newness to it all.
How blissful. And laughing together brings me to tears. Last night on my drive home from yoga I had a moment of emotional burst, I cried with such happiness as I feel so complete with my family. I helped create this and how blessed I am to be in their lives. Sharing the collective moments and seeing the world change as a consequence.
Children bring you back to the NOW, there is nothing else for them, and it is something we loose as we grow-up. Yet so many of us are trying to bring it back to simplify living, bringing it back to the basics. To breathe and enjoy to embrace and trust. To be and relax.
Today is Friday, the day doesn't matter when you are a baby, everyday you see the new and play with whatever is in your surroundings. You smile at those that smile back and giggle when you get tickled.
How sweet is this...
